About Nancy
I was drawn into relationship with the unseen world at age six, when my father died in a car accident. I could not accept the finality of the cemetery or the remoteness of heaven: he remained a palpable presence for me. Unfortunately, none of the adults in my small-town midwestern community (family members, school teachers, clergy) knew how to affirm and guide me in continuing relationship with my father in spirit form.
I understand now that traditions supporting ongoing relations between the living and the dead had been lost, along each of my ancestral lineages, at least 500 years earlier. The practice of Ancestral Lineage Healing re-enlivens this ancient knowledge for those of us whose cultures have broken from it, or left it in prehistoric time. The knowledge and facilities I sought at age six from the adults around me are now at the heart of my life and work.
My academic degrees are in Cultural Anthropology and Depth Psychology. (For those who are interested, I have Level 2 training in Internal Family Systems.) I worked in the field of Conflict Resolution for 30 years, in nonprofit and academic settings. These years of study and professional experience have cultivated in me a deep and abiding respect for the diversity, breadth and depth of human experience; the complexities within and between identities; the dynamics of domination; and the need for deep listening and witness.
My own ancestors lived in what is now northwestern Europe. Immigrants to North America came from Germany, Ireland, and Scotland in the 18th and 19th centuries, in the wake of religious persecution, military conscription, and famine. Each of my lineages were, in different ways, driven from their own ancestral lands, and each of them were subsequently involved, directly or indirectly, in the displacement of indigenous American populations. The immigrants' descendants converged in central Ohio, and that is where I was born. I live now on unceded Ohlone land on the central coast of California, near Santa Cruz. Here, the Amah Mutsun Tribal Band, comprised of the descendants of indigenous people taken to local missions during Spanish colonization of the central coast, is working to restore traditional stewardship practices and heal from historical trauma.
“We all have helpers in seen and unseen realms.
Give them something to do.
Otherwise, they will grow inattentive with boredom.
They can clean junk from your mind,
Find the opening note for the chorus of a song,
Or give a grandchild a safe path through the dark.
They will not give you winning numbers at the casino,
Wash your dishes, or take out an enemy.
Thank them.
Feed them once in a while.”
— Joy Harjo Conflict Resolution for Holy Beings: Poems © 2015